On a side note, there is a current hoo-ha on people who spend lavishly for their weddings.
I personally find that it is okay to spend your money on luxurious weddings, IF the money is yours as in, you have saved up for it.
Like the colloquial manner of saying goes, "Duit dia biarlah dia buat apa dia nak."
"It's his money. Let him do what he wants with it. "
I do not understand why people would put themselves in a huge fix such as a debt for something that will only last for a day. Sure the wedding will be amazing, but if it is beyond your means to spend lavishly, then it is simply burdening you.
I on the other hand adore simple weddings. I loved my friend's simple yet beautiful wedding that I attended a while ago. The colour combination was elegant, the traditional musical instrument played by the band was subtle and definitely not rowdy. The food was delicious and not overwhelming.
I have attended various weddings. And some are VERY extravagant that the cost of that particular void-deck wedding surpass the price of a wedding held in a hotel.
You and your spouse will be starting a new life as a husband and wife. You need a lot of cash, to start the beginning of your lives together. Believe me, what comes after marriage is scary. It is a little thing that we call, commitment.
You will be responsible for yourself and your spouse. You can't depend on anyone. Which means, that huge fat bank loan used for that unnecessary fancy wedding affair is on you.
Here is what awaits you after marriage, your house, your first child.
These two things costs more than the wedding. The house needs renovation. A simple one can cost you at least SGD$10,000. What about the furniture? That can go up to another SGD $10,000.
What are you going to use? Another bank loan?
What about your child? Baby's essentials costs a bomb. I swear. The baby crib, baby carrier, a good stroller, nappies, milk formula and so forth. It can reach up to SGD$3,000. I have given birth to both my children in a private hospital for my c-section and it costs me, SGD$7,000 for each child. That was the final bill. They will deduct about SGD$4,000 from your medisave so you will be paying SGD $3,000 in cash as soon as your wife is admitted to the delivery suite.
Every little thing costs money. Every single one.
My wedding was back in 2010.
My wedding reception was done up by my uncle so obviously I did get a discount. The dais, food catered for 800 pax, tables and chairs, hand bouquet, wedding room decor was about SGD $7,000+.
Photobooth was very cheap at that time, only SGD $150-SGD$200.
Wedding cake baked by a beautiful Russian friend who have discontinued wedding cake baking, was SGD $250-SGD $300.
I requested to have only 5 hantaran (presents from the groom, but Idros surprsied me with more). I personally sent my hantaran trays (to be decorated) to johore bahru. It costs me RM300. For all the 5 trays. Which was about SGD $150.
Soo Kee Platinum & Diamomd Ring $1000
Doamanchi and People of Asia Suit $400
Sajadah $20
Two-Tier Russian Layered Honey Wedding Cake $250-$300
(The cupcakes were a gift)
My 5 outfits and make-up costs me SGD$2300-SGD $2500 (I really could not recall.)
My photographer was my brother who took photography modules while he took his diploma.
And my bedroom furniture was about SGD $1,000.
My honeymoon to Koh Samui was sponsored by my dear father.
My dowry given by Idros was SGD $8,000 which totally covered the catering and dais.
That was it. I really enjoyed having that simple wedding. With absolutely no regrets. It went exactly as how I wanted it to be. Every fine detail. I even recall purchasing an ikea drawer set and fixing it up manually with my father. Just so we would not overspend on furniture.
If you can only afford the nikah, it is absolutely fine. I have seen and been to a beautiful nikah ceremony, it lasted for a while, the guests of about 200 were then served with simple food and beverage.
You can save up for a fantastic honeymoon if you do not splurge on your wedding ceremony, or even save up for what comes later.
Good luck to all who are planning for their wedding.
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